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90 Day Fiancé fans are outraged by Emily and her controlling ways

Emily speaking in confessional on 90 Day Fiancé season 9
Emily speaking in confessional on 90 Day Fiancé season 9 (Image credit: TLC)

There was a lot of conflict going on among all 90 Day Fiancé couples in this week's episode, "Get Off Your High Horse." Bilal and Shaeeda bickered about whether she was a messy houseguest or he was an irritating host with "OCD;" Mohamed and Yve had a go of it because she’s reluctant to convert her religion; and Patrick started seeing red flags when it came to Thaís’ feelings toward the Dallas move and his brother. Even with all of that going on, nothing seemed to garner more attention from fans than the issues between Emily and Kobe. 

Since the beginning of the season, Emily has done a very poor job of winning over the audience. Many viewers didn’t like that she delayed the long-awaited meeting between Kobe and his son Koban. These same 90 Day watchers also don’t appreciate how she at times appears to block Kobe’s attempts to bond with Koban and dismisses his opinions on parenting. 

Perhaps the audience would be a little more forgiving of her actions if the things she does weren’t accompanied by such a condescending and disrespectful tone. The way she speaks to Kobe makes us cringe and think about the awful manner in which 90 Day Fiancé vet Angela talks to her husband Michael. (Okay, so she isn’t quite on Angela’s level, but the fact we can draw a comparison between the two isn’t a great thing.) With all of this in mind, fans seemed to reach their boiling point with Emily during last night’s episode. So did Kobe. 

It began with Kobe offering to do some work around the farm belonging to Emily’s parents. Although he can’t legally work in the US due to his immigration status, he wants to at least feel like he’s contributing to the household. So he walks with Emily to meet her mother in the horse stables, where he’s been tasked with shoveling horse manure into a bucket, then transporting that somewhere else to dump it. 

From the moment that he starts, Emily relentlessly keeps criticizing him for how he chooses to do the work. She has so much to say about his technique and how much manure he scoops with each dig of the shovel. He then finally has enough of her constant chatter and tells her to "shut the f*** up." Feeling attacked, she leaves the stable and returns to the main house. 

After finishing his work for the day, Kobe reunites with Emily and the two try to resolve some of their issues. In a truly baffling moment, Emily is able to elicit an apology from Kobe for the way he talked to her, but she offers a lack-luster sorry to him. She doesn’t apologize for the rude way she communicates to Kobe or the fact she consistently critiques everything he does as a way of control. She’s "pushy" and Emily’s own mother gave her that label. 

We can only hope that the rest of the season is one of redemption with the audience for Emily, because at this rate, she’s not winning any popularity contests. 

90 Day Fiancé Fans react to the way Emily treats Kobe 

These are some of the "kinder" things fans had to say about Emily’s recent behavior on 90 Day Fiancé.

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Be sure to stay tuned for more episodes of 90 Day Fiancé season 9 airing on Sundays at 8 pm ET/PT on TLC.  

Terrell Smith has a diverse writing background having penned material for a wide array of clients including the federal government and Bravo television personalities.  When he’s not writing as Terrell, he’s writing under his pseudonym Tavion Scott, creating scripts for his audio drama podcasts. Terrell is a huge fan of great storytelling when it comes to television and film. Some of his favorite shows include The CrownWandaVision, Abbot Elementary and Godfather of HarlemAnd a fun fact is he's completely dialed into the TLC 90 Day Fiancé universe.