You Hurt My Feelings: release date, trailer, cast and everything to know about the Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Julia Louis-Dreyfus at a bar in You Hurt My Feelings
Julia Louis-Dreyfus in You Hurt My Feelings (Image credit: A24)

Romantic comedies are always about finding your true love, but Nicole Holofcener has stood out in her career because her movies often focus on the struggles of maintaining or rediscovering love later in life. That once again looks to be the case in her new movie, You Hurt My Feelings, where she teams up with Julia Louis-Dreyfus.

While the movie is written and directed by Holofcener, it also has another big name in Hollywood right now behind it — studio A24. The producer/distributor has long been known for its acclaimed entries that offer something different than the typical superhero/franchise fare of many other Hollywood studios. A24 has been on a particularly hot streak of late, with its 2022 movie Everything Everywhere All at Once winning Best Picture, as well as a slew of other movies earning awards and strong box office numbers. Will You Hurt My Feelings keep that momentum going?

Here is everything that you need to know about You Hurt My Feelings.

You Hurt My Feelings release date

After premiering at the 2023 Sundance Film Festival in January, You Hurt My Feelings arrives in theaters for US audiences on May 26, which is the Friday of Memorial Day weekend. Find out how to watch You Hurt My Feelings here.

The comedy is going to be an alternative to the usual summer blockbuster fare, including in its opening weekend, going up against The Little Mermaid and the broad comedy About My Father.

You Hurt My Feelings is also just one of many A24 movies set to come out in 2023, joining Beau Is Afraid, Past Lives and Talk to Me.

You Hurt My Feelings plot

An original script written by Holofcener, here is the official synopsis for You Hurt My Feelings:

"From acclaimed filmmaker Nicole Holofcener comes a sharply observed comedy about a novelist whose long-standing marriage is suddenly upended when she overhears her husband give his honest reaction to her latest book. A film about trust, lies and the things we say to the people we love most."

Find out why Julia Louis-Dreyfus believes that AI could not write this kind of movie as well as Holofocner.

You Hurt My Feelings cast

Tobias Menzies and Julia Louis-Dreyfus in You Hurt My Feeligns

Tobias Menzies and Julia Louis-Dreyfus in You Hurt My Feelings (Image credit: A24)

Julia Louis-Dreyfus headlines You Hurt My Feelings as novelist Beth. This is a reunion for Louis-Dreyfus and Holofcener, as the two previously worked together on the 2013 movie Enough Said. Of course, Louis-Dreyfus is best known for her TV roles as Elaine on Seinfeld and Selina Meyer on Veep, but she has also starred in The New Adventures of Old Christine, Downhill, You People and has a recurring role in the MCU as Valentina Allegra de Fontaine.

Playing Beth's husband Don is Tobias Menzies. Many viewers will likely know Menzies from either his role as Prince Philip for two seasons on The Crown or in Outlander, though he has also appeared in big-name shows like Game of Thrones, Rome and The Terror.

Other members of the You Hurt My Feelings cast include Michaela Watkins (Enlightened) as Beth's sister Sarah, Owen Teague (Mrs. Fletcher) as Beth's son Elliot, Arian Moyaed (Succession) as Sarah's husband Mark and Jeannie Berlin (Succession) as Beth's mother Georgia. Also appearing in the movie are David Cross, Amber Tamblyn, Zach Cherry, LaTanya Richardson Jackson and Sarah Steele.

You Hurt My Feelings trailer

Watch the official trailer for You Hurt My Feelings directly below: 

You Hurt My Feelings reviews — what the critics are saying

After screening at Sundance, there is a big buzz around You Hurt My Feelings. As of May 25, the movie is "Certified Fresh" with a score of 95% on Rotten Tomatoes.'s Brian Tallerico calls the movie one of Holofcener's "smartest and funniest films." 

How long is You Hurt My Feelings?

You Hurt My Feelings has a runtime of one hour and 33 minutes.

What is You Hurt My Feelings rated?

You Hurt My Feelings is rated R for "language."

Nicole Holofcener movies

Nicole Holofcener has been a voice in indie film circles for years, with a critically lauded resume of movies. Here is the full list of movies that she both wrote and directed: 

  • Walking and Talking (1991)
  • Lovely & Amazing (2001)
  • Friends With Money (2006)
  • Please Give (2010)
  • Enough Said (2013)
  • The Land of Steady Habits (2018)

She also provided the screenplays for Every Secret Thing (2014) and Can You Ever Forgive Me? (2018), the latter of which she was nominated for an Oscar.

She has also worked a good bit in TV, directing episodes for the likes of Sex and the City, Enlightened, Parks and Recreation, One Mississippi, Mrs. Fletcher and more, as well as serving as an executive producer on One Mississippi and Mrs. Fletcher.

You Hurt My Feelings poster

(Image credit: A24)
Michael Balderston

Michael Balderston is a DC-based entertainment and assistant managing editor for What to Watch, who has previously written about the TV and movies with TV Technology, Awards Circuit and regional publications. Spending most of his time watching new movies at the theater or classics on TCM, some of Michael's favorite movies include Casablanca, Moulin Rouge!, Silence of the Lambs, Children of Men, One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest and Star Wars. On the TV side he enjoys Only Murders in the Building, Yellowstone, The Boys, Game of Thrones and is always up for a Seinfeld rerun. Follow on Letterboxd.